My Journey With Health And Fitness – Great Advice

Sorry if you were looking for a post Thursday, sometimes while at the condo I get a bit distracted by having a good time. And yes, that often involves tequila.

I had my blog planned out for today but then I saw a post on FB this morning that changed everything. Here is what it said,

Just in case you needed to be reminded…. Summer months are upon us!!!!
If you see a small girl wearing a bikini, mind your business.
If you see a big girl wearing a crop top, mind your business.
If you see a girl not wearing a bra, mind your business.
If a girl of any size doesn’t fit your definition of beautiful, hot or sexy because she is too “skinny” or too “fat”…. Keep your toxic shitty comments to yourself . 
You do not have the right to make anyone feel any less for being a certain size.

Mind ya damn business!!

Now it has taken me a long time while on this journey to get my head in a space where I am comfortable showing parts of my body in public. By this I mean doing things like wearing a 2 piece bathing suit (not a tanktini) or a shorter skirt/dress. My body has flaws. For example, I have previously talked about the fact that when you lose as much weight as I have you end up with excess skin and it is not exactly a pretty sight. But, I look at some of the pictures of me down here and I see the muscles in both my arms and legs and have gotten myself to that place where I think the good stuff is more important than those flaws. And besides, I have earned them.

I posted on FB once about a woman I met in Los Cabos. She was a big gal, I’m pretty sure over 250 lbs yet she had enough self-confidence that she was comfortable with herself and wore a 2 piece bathing suit all the time. We were at the condo when I made that post and I noted how jealous I was of her and the women I was seeing on the beach here with larger bodies but they were ok with wearing those types of bathing suits and yet then, even with the weight I had lost, I wasn’t there yet. A long time friend commented back that she didn’t like it when larger women wore 2 piece suits which of course just made me stay in my shell.

But that post today made me say FUCK YES (sorry for the language but that is literally what I said to my husband who also loved the post). If someone is comfortable with how they look then it is absolutely no one else’s business. Everyone has a right to determine what they are comfortable with and if you want to judge them then you damn well better makes sure that everything about you is beyond perfect. And I will say for me, women judging other women’s looks is one of the worst things possible.

And so I commit going forward that I am going to be confident in whatever I am wearing. If I am comfortable in an outfit then that is all that matters. I am not going to let what others think be the driving force in how I look, it is what I think that is important.

Lastly, I refer back to a post I recently made, it should be easier to be kind than to be nasty. I truly hope that is a mantra that I live by.